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Nobody "dresscoded" me at home. As soon as I was old enough to pick my own clothing, I could. What skirts or jeans or dresses I wore was my choice completely. My school also didn't care much.
Blew my mind when I realized how many other girls had to sneak out with their clothes because the parents had a rule against tight jeans or whatever.
I still think my parents were right with this one. The kids with the strictest rules were always those with the craziest outfits. Can't blame them, I'd have done the same.
When I was a teen, I believed in that too. The most strict parents had the most wild kids.
As an adult, it's now verified.
My parents were the chill, openly weed-smoking guys that wouldn't rat you out to your parents if you needed help (like a place to stay while coming down or whatever)
This policy was explicitly because my dad worked yard supervision at the local elementary schools and 100% knew that those with the strictest parents were the ones who needed it the most as they had nowhere safe to go. The abused kids were second, many of them were neglect babies in our area so they got fucked up and went home to parents who didn't care
I went to a charter school for my freshman year that was mostly full of people who were kicked out of the school they kick you out of if you're a problem child. Almost all of them were children of parents who worked long-ass days and came home to be strict as fuck
Why were you at the charter school with all the naughty kids if your parents were super chill allies?
New school, so it was their (bad kids) only option, parents were trying something out because they got sold on it
Ended up being a bad idea overall for many reasons, that was a big one
The class president of my senior class would bring his "punk" clothing in a backpack and change in the school bathroom every morning. Blew my mind. My parents couldn't give a shit what I wore.
I, as a boy, ran through my cousin's to change my clothes on my way to the bus.
Don't do this to your kids if you think that was wrong, lol. I know people who grew up like this, complained to me and then started to behave the exact same way with their kids later on.
Yeah I don't. My kids love these stories of me dodging my dad's insecurities, they wear whatever they want. And they mostly wear t-shirts and jeans.
My mom used to pick out clothes for me as a little kid before school, and I'd come downstairs in completely different outfits.