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Is it normal to not value any other type of relationships other than romantic? Like, what if someone has friends but doesn’t value them or like them at all? They don’t dislike them, but they’re apathetic toward everyone who isn’t their boyfriend or girlfriend and don’t care whether they live or die. They don’t care about their children or their well-being. Is there anything wrong with this?

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[–] audaxdreik@pawb.social 5 points 2 days ago

Just from personal experience, I was in a relationship like this once and found it absolutely intolerable for me.

I have many friends and I value them quite a bit. I also manage my time and emotions by spreading them out. I can't always talk about everything with everyone, nor can I always do the things with friends they want to do or spend all the time with them that they want. It's a delicate and complex web. It doesn't take a lot to manage, it's just simply, "This for you, here and now, while I can" and "This for you, here and then".

She on the other hand was co-dependent. Cut everyone else out of her life to wrap herself tightly around me and lean her entire emotional weight on me all the time. Any thought she had was run through me and any time she needed attention she'd come to me because she had nowhere else to turn. It literally broke me.

Maybe some people like this or can manage it better than I could, but be aware the toll this may take on your partner as well.