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[–] iAmTheTot@sh.itjust.works 36 points 6 days ago (1 children)

OP has the opportunity to do the funniest thing.

[–] TriflingToad@sh.itjust.works 11 points 6 days ago (1 children)

just in case
Post title:
Have you ever had fruitful discussions cut short because OP deleted the post? If so, is this a fundamental problem or just an annoyance?

[–] 5765313496@lemmy.world 3 points 6 days ago

Downvoting because that's not what the title says.

Kidding.

Or am I??

[–] Deebster@infosec.pub 21 points 6 days ago (2 children)

Recently, someone asked about advice on a PC build, collected a lot of useful feedback then deleted their post once they had what they needed. Now all that work other users put in is inaccessible, and all that valuable knowledge can't help anyone else. I think that's a problem.

Hoo boy. I remember scrolling through that post, seeing so many detailed replies, and thinking the OP was an ass for not bothering to reply any question. This just makes it so much worse

[–] IndustryStandard@lemmy.world 3 points 5 days ago

On the bright side, tech advice gets outdated fast

[–] neidu3@sh.itjust.works 15 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago) (1 children)

As a mod on this community, I find it annoying at best. It happens from time to time, and while there are no explicit rules against it I find it disruptive enough to the spirit of the community to serve users with a one week ban because of it. Deleting an ancient post is one thing. Deleting for no apparent reason while people are typing responses is a waste of everybody's time.

[–] DandomRude@lemmy.world 4 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago)

Thank you for your insightful comment -and also for your commitment!

I think that this issue - if it is relevant at all - needs to be solved by the developers: for example, by prohibiting to delete posts once the post has received a certain number of comments/upvotes/downvotes, but at the same time still allowing the user name to be removed (which is technically difficult, of course).

If that's possible (can't say for sure), then I'd go for that. Anything else would be punishing those who post here in the first place, and I think that should be avoided at all costs.

Everyone should retain sovereignty over their posts, but I think there can be a certain level of interest at which personal posts become somewhat public property. Where that lies can certainly be determined by the community, but it is definitely also a technical question - and probably a difficult one not only but just because of edits to the OP-Post.

[–] CanadaPlus@lemmy.sdf.org 7 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago)

It's happened several times to me. If it were possible, it would be nice if self-deletes were to continue being accessible and commentable. (Moderator deletes being different because of festering non-fruitful discussions)

I think a post runs through that user's own instance, unfortunately, so it would be technically non-trivial.

Annoyance. However it's usually a mod coming in and either locking or deleting a post (either due to the post itself breaking a community rule or because the comment section got too rowdy to effectively moderate) that causes the abrupt end to a conversation.

Haven't run into too many folks deleting their posts.

[–] flamingo_pinyata@sopuli.xyz 5 points 6 days ago (1 children)

Yes sometimes controversial posts get removed and I find it annoying

[–] tamal3@lemmy.world 2 points 6 days ago

I will always miss the post/comments about the person who didn't want to poop for 3 days.

[–] ApollosArrow@lemmy.world 4 points 6 days ago

It’s a habit that I think sparked from Reddit exodus and people wanting to remove traces of themselves.

I know some people disagree, but it feels like walking into someone’s library and just setting books on fire. You’re destroying some posterity and the goal of place like Lenny where we want to gather people and information.

Instead of going scorched Earth, we should treat this as a public place where what you say is out of your control once you have said it. We should be practicing mindfulness in how we use the internet, like we used to back in the day.

The common practice on Reddit used to be creating throwaway accounts (some still do that here) to ask those more personal questions, but I think more and more people are just destroying accounts all together every few months.

It’s a less of an issue on the communities where people are asking for personal advice that is very bespoke to the person (even though that advice could in theory help others in the future) and more of an issue in the communities where knowledge is being shared.

I think the larger hurdle on Lemmy will be the fact that there will always be many clashing ideologies and people will never agree on the way people should be living their lives.

[–] naught101@lemmy.world 4 points 6 days ago (1 children)
[–] Kissaki@feddit.org 2 points 5 days ago

issue title for context: [Bug]: Display deleted or removed posts when they have children

Surprisingly the ticket has no upvotes. (Well, had. I left one.)

[–] AmidFuror@fedia.io 4 points 6 days ago (1 children)

Nice try, OP. You're not drawing me into this topic just to delete your post later.

[–] FaceDeer@fedia.io 3 points 6 days ago

Looks like he already drew you in, though. Catch-22.

[–] IWW4@lemmy.zip 3 points 6 days ago

It is an annoyance.

[–] hakase@lemmy.zip 3 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago)

In my experience that's more commonly due to overzealous mods deleting or locking posts than it is to OPs deleting posts.

It does seem like a fundamental problem with Reddit-style comment sections, which is why I usually prefer communities that rely on voting instead of heavy-handed moderation.

[–] Krudler@lemmy.world 2 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago)

I go back to the BBS days on my 300 baud modem... there's never been a fruitful discussion on the Internet. We're all just here to waste time. (e: even those who put forth good-faith effort)

[–] LovableSidekick@lemmy.world 2 points 6 days ago

just annoyance

[–] Tollana1234567@lemmy.today 1 points 6 days ago

mostly on reddits, useful discussion that is not controversial, is cutshort because the mods dont like the attention the sub is getting, or the post.

[–] balderdash9@lemmy.zip 1 points 6 days ago

Would be ironic if you deleted this post OP

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