Marrying the wrong person
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Not getting a job in my field after graduating. I was at a very low point in my life and let that window of opportunity go and now I feel like I can't go back because it's been quite a few years and nobody wants people like me. Oh well, I'll find something else to do, but it does sting a bit that depression robbed me of my future like that.
I really should have learned to drive in high school when I had the chance. No money->no car->no job loops have bit me quite a lot as an adult.
Same here, I often find job postings asking for a driver's license for reasons. I'm happy as can be on my bike, though, I don't get the car hype.
That's interesting. Half of my friends are in successful careers without a license
You're probably in a major city, maybe even a hip coastal one or a European one, and not from rural Canada. Good for you, we're not all so lucky.
Moving to a place more like that immediately was the original plan, but shit happens. And, well, my whole support system is where I grew up or close.
I thought about buying about a thousand bitcoins when it would have costed me a hundred bucks. Never did though.
costed
cost
I regret surviving into the 21st century.
Akasha, is that you?
Lol something I'm not going to put on the internet
Probably a good idea :P
Posting
Also, commenting
Not fighting harder to buy a house when it was cheap. My SO hated the idea soo much. Now still living in same place I cant do jack to. And 10 years we won't have a home thanks to my grandma's stupidity and pride.
Sometimes I wonder if i chose the wrong person. I love my SO but our life goals are as different as can be. Took 15 years to convince to my side.
Yeah I wanted to buy a house 5 years ago, but my wife (fiance at the time) was too nervous. Home prices had risen 40% by the time she was comfortable with it.
Waiting so long to cut off a toxic parent. Not spending more time with a good parent. Not going to therapy sooner.
Trusting that my guidance counselors would do their job. Not switching high schools because they didn't look very different.
My school refused to let me in more difficult classes I thought I needed for college even though I requested them, was recommended them by my grade school and even tested into them. I only found out recently that I test advance proficient, but they lied to me about when I was a student.
All because when I was in kindergarten, someone decided I had a reading disability.
I have this same story
Not living up to my own potential. I've led a pretty uneventful life with few, if any, accolades. I know that I actually have the capacity to be excellent in certain regards, but I can't seem to force myself to actually put in the work. Doesn't help that I've been called lazy my entire life. Some therapists seem to think a "fear of success" is part of the pathology but I don't agree. I've been extremely intimate with failure my entire life, success is like the one thing I've never had and am craving daily.
I feel you.
In what regards?
Professionally and creatively. To elaborate, I have two degrees that I've never ended up using and I've been working in customer service/tech support for the past twenty years. I've been at my current company in my current role for a full decade, and the lack of upward mobility is getting to me.
Letting my emotions ruin my career
I'm curious if you want to tell the story.
I have taken long breaks in my education (a pretty good one) due to being lazy depressed (being depressed but not sad per se, having executive dysfunction).
My friends have moved on from college and I am stuck. It always feels that my problems were not as important or as big to waste years of my life.
I have accepted the fact that it is my life and it is not a race but sometimes I do feel that it would have been much simpler and better if I had just completed my education while being miserable because I was miserable anyways.
I am kind of rambling because I don't think such a deep and vast topic can be explained in a comment.
I spent 7 years on my 4 year degree for vaguely similar reasons. I didn’t take breaks. I pushed through and cracked and failed and started over in a new major and a new school. That was nearly a decade ago and I’m not really happy with where it lead me. I wish I had taken the time off. If I could go back now with my current knowledge of how my brain works differently, I would be so much more successful. I’m also just rambling at this point.
I guess what I’m trying to say is be kind to yourself over the choices to have made. Not only can you rarely ever take them back, the grass is rarely ever actually greener on the other side.
You're right, but thank you for sharing anyway!
No regrats
Being born in the USA
In 2018 I was offered a job managing a retreat center on the shores of Lake Superior. The job would have been to keep the place looking nice and, very occasionally, cultivate a restful space for people who needed it.
I went and got a PhD instead. Not a huge mistake, but I’d probably have been happier with the retreat center.
I don’t know, society might be better off with you doing science!
Probably, but my PhD is in philosophy.
Probably,
Checks out.
Put off transitioning waay too long
Why the fuck are people downvoting this, seriously
your mom ,😥
Our shame unites us.
So say we all
Not standing up to the so-called friend who stabbed me in the back.
Going to college for a business degree where I'm now working a position that doesn't require it and still years away from paying my loan off.
I'm right here with you. Went into Psychology but had no idea that I was screwing myself over on loans - I couldn't afford to continue into a Masters which is pretty much required to work in the field.
About 15 years out and I'm still dealing with the debt for a degree I can't use and can't afford to continue.
Please correct me if I'm wrong, but I've heard that some people pay the absolute minimum on student loans and keep them for years and years. Some lady I knew was paying like $50 a month or so and she was like, fuck it, I can afford this and more but they're not getting their money any time soon.
Idk, I don't live in the states, so I'm kind of wondering how it all works.
So it's complicated because it depends on what your loans are from - government loans, a personal bank loan, credit union, etc. There are student loan companies, many of which are extremely predatory and if you're 18 and just being told "you're smart, go to college", you have no idea what you're actually signing up for.
I was told through my teen years that I would "be able to pay my loans back based on how much I make". This is how government loans typically work. At 18 I was not aware that I didn't qualify for - so I went through college thinking I was going to pay my loans back based on my own income.
I was very very wrong, and had no idea until my first loan came in and it was literally more than I made in a month of work.
I let too many people tell me how to live my life and tried too hard for their approval for too long.
Accidentally letting my sidekick find out that I poisoned brock
not fucking , not having a gf , not configuring my system , not having real friends
not configuring my system
and not saaaving everything