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[–] P4ulin_Kbana@lemmy.eco.br 78 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (3 children)
[–] shneancy@lemmy.world 28 points 1 month ago (2 children)

nooooo that's the worst horny jail! the tops aren't there in the corner with us and nothing happens :(

[–] kittenzrulz123@lemmy.blahaj.zone 12 points 1 month ago

Im pretty sure in the bottoms corner we mostly cuddle and meow at eachother :3

[–] P4ulin_Kbana@lemmy.eco.br 3 points 1 month ago (1 children)
[–] Danitos@reddthat.com 10 points 1 month ago (3 children)

In case you are serious: opposite of bottoms.

In gay relationships there's usually a bottom (passive) person and a top (active) person.

[–] Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de 4 points 1 month ago (1 children)

i mean i'd say that's pretty standard for humanity in general, no? not really just a gay thing.

[–] Danitos@reddthat.com 4 points 1 month ago

Yeah, I guess so yeah. But in gay communities is veeery notorious, as 2 tops or 2 bottoms will be a big sexual incompatibility.

[–] Passerby6497@lemmy.world 4 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Same for the Kink community as well

[–] princessnorah@lemmy.blahaj.zone 12 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Needs to be noted:

Top =/= Dominant

Bottom =/= Submissive

[–] P4ulin_Kbana@lemmy.eco.br 1 points 1 month ago

Thanks for the explanation!

[–] dharmacurious@slrpnk.net 9 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Jokes on you, I tunneled out of the bottoms corner years ago! Now I can sneak into The Basement of Aggressive Tops whenever I want!I haven't been able to sit down since 2009!

[–] P4ulin_Kbana@lemmy.eco.br 5 points 1 month ago (4 children)
[–] dharmacurious@slrpnk.net 9 points 1 month ago

Hopefully about 7 inches and looking to take out some frustrations

[–] jaybone@lemmy.world 6 points 1 month ago (2 children)

You’re making us straight people look uninformed.

[–] theneverfox@pawb.social 5 points 1 month ago (1 children)

It's a legit problem... You have tops and bottoms in straight relationships too, it's not about parts or gender, it's about relationship dynamics

But we've partially tied it up with gender, which really fucks with all these people who don't understand why their sex lives suck, no matter how hard they try

[–] Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de 4 points 1 month ago

The societal views on relationships are just so fucked in general, stuff like "dominant=top" "man=dominant" and "you can't have different preferences day-to-day", and of course "relationships can only be 2 people".

It's taken me several years of constant poking and prodding at my brain to figure out my preferences and it's complex enough that i'd double the length of this comment by explaining it.
But god damn it's nice to have it figured out; especially coming to terms with not actually being straight (and rejecting the concept of sexuality categories) has done wonders for my confidence, it's a solid foundation for my mental health.

It makes me very sad and angry that it's questionable if a significant amount of the population will ever reach this point, i wish we could launch a global project to help people with introspection and untangling themselves so they can have this inner peace.

[–] beefbot@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

You’re not uninformed You’re just categorically unable to truly experience being an excluded community* so you’re got to take terminology from people who don’t really have a choice

*cis only

But you don’t HAVE to understand the lives of people you take terminology from, so lots of you don’t, & those who don’t sometimes wander into threads like this anyway, reminding me that honestly most of you ARE like that

:3c

[–] jaybone@lemmy.world 3 points 1 month ago

My bad. I’m sorry. Thank you for correcting me. Peace and love. ❤️

:3c

[–] festnt@sh.itjust.works 5 points 1 month ago

the stuff you wear on your torso

[–] sem@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 month ago (2 children)
[–] dharmacurious@slrpnk.net 2 points 1 month ago

I have never felt quite so seen

[–] P4ulin_Kbana@lemmy.eco.br 4 points 1 month ago

Why isn't he in the corner? /genq

[–] FilthyShrooms@lemmy.world 65 points 1 month ago
[–] jballs@sh.itjust.works 50 points 1 month ago (2 children)

:O C===3

:OC===3

:O==3

:O=3

:3

[–] Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de 10 points 1 month ago

me inhaling a weirdly long chicken drumstick whole

[–] smitten@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 1 month ago

Username checks out

[–] headerfile@lemmy.blahaj.zone 32 points 1 month ago (2 children)

the resemblance is uncanny

[–] Tiger_Man_@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 1 month ago

Holy shit that's freeBSD reference

[–] magnetosphere@fedia.io 15 points 1 month ago

Thank you! I’ve wondered what the “c” was for.

[–] kittenzrulz123@lemmy.blahaj.zone 13 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)
[–] smitten@lemmy.blahaj.zone 12 points 1 month ago (1 children)
[–] Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de 6 points 1 month ago

mischeivous proboscis monkey, with only the bulbous nose able to fit in the frame

[–] assassinatedbyCIA@lemmy.world 10 points 1 month ago
[–] Tiger_Man_@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 month ago
[–] jbk@discuss.tchncs.de 2 points 1 month ago
[–] Emotional@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 month ago (1 children)