I'm a chick. Ignore this if you want.
However, I'm a slut who likes a good hook-up but had years-long monogamous relationships as well. I'm absolutely average looking and have mostly been with men who range from hot as fuck twinks to conventionally unattractive socially anxious weirdos. My last relationship was with an autistic 5'6" guy I met on a dating app, it started as a hook-up and lasted three years.
I look for chill people with passions, who know who they are and what they want. Or, are at least introspective enough to see themselves. Looks aren't a big factor, but cleanliness and effort are. The single dad angle shot doesn't do anyone any favors.
Just from looking at your comments, you're coming in here with a defeatest mindset. People who haven't had much luck can get trapped in that kind of negativity, it works its way into how they hold themselves and what they say in ways they don't even realize. I unmatch with people as soon as they bring that into the conversation. Self-deprecating humor is alright, when carefully done, but risky on first impressions. If I'm looking for a fun hook-up, I want someone who looks and sounds fun.
No ones owes you a match. Not the app or the women on it. If you don't make a profile people want to match with, that's on you.