I play pretty much exclusively on handheld these day. The last thing I want to do after a long day working, is to sit at my desk some more.
I have a Switch and a Steamdeck, both are fantastic for different purposes, and both let me game while relaxing on the sofa or anywhere else.
I usually bring one of then when I travel for work as well, great for killing time in airports or while flying. I'd highly recommend the Steamdeck for your situation - it's definitely worth it.
Women aren't a monolith, just as men aren't. There are women who will appreciate your emotional openness, especially if you are able to regulate and communicate those emotions in a healthy way.
Edit to add: my relationship to my husband has only grown deeper as he has learnt to better access and express his emotions. In particular, he is working on accessing emotions other than anger, and this has really helped us grow our connection.