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Partying. The whole idea of dressing up to leave one’s home after dark to visit a dimly lit, overly crowded place with overpriced drinks and snacks and music so loud you can’t hear yourself think.
Seems entirely unnecessary. I feel like social connection is so much easier when you can see and hear each other. Being able to get enough sleep and not needing to pay through the nose for 5 peanuts is also nice.
By extension. Going out for drinks. Spending 5x for alcohol served to be briskly by someone overworked and tip them...
Maybe I'm just cheap but I'd rather just drink at a friends house or my own home.
This way I'm safer and can pass out if I need to.
I just don’t drink alcohol in the first place (and also don’t get the hype, lol), but I can see how it makes more sense at a friends house.
We had this cool medieval style basement tavern where we hammered nails in a stump with an axe, threw axes, played darts, drank beer out of horns and got wasted
Sounds awesome!
I feel like this is only one specific type or partying where you go to a business. There are many forms of DIY partying which involve spending less money and allow you to see and speak to people that you are parting with.
Yeah, that I understand more. At least for people who are more extroverted than I am, lol. But being in a setting in which you can see and hear people while not needing to pay insane prices sounds way more reasonable.
Alcohol. Or drugs for that matter. But alcohol is the one that actually pisses me off when depicted in media. It's always some character downing a glass of something and then having this super happy face and enjoying themselves. Like, fuck off? Anyone I know who drinks doesn't even enjoy the flavor of it, and it being romanticized into this fancy, social drink is genuinely infuriating.
As for drugs, I just don't understand the reason why someone would want to alter their mental capabilities.
Trauma Trauma can easily make it where you can't stand your own thoughts or how you feel. So anything that augments that can be very attractive.
I'd day mental health too, even if you don't have known traumas. Major depression, etc. But I know women who can't relax or aren't very intimate unless they drink. But as someone with an alcoholic father, alcohol has some big dark sides. Even if you are happy when you drink, it can really mess your brain up.
As far as drugs go, I’ve tried basically everything but opiates (well I’ve smoked opium, but nothing else. I avoid those) and the way some drugs can change your visual, auditory, and even temporal perceptions is the most amazing and interesting experience in life. It’s truly incredible. I don’t do much anymore, but I’m so happy I have tried what I did. Beyond perception, certain drugs have made me feel pleasure beyond anything I could possibly imagine. Some people told me stuff like that could ruin other pleasures in life, but I have not at all had that happen. Perhaps heroin or fent could do that.
I understand why people do it (logically). But altering what I hear, see, taste, etc. is something that doesn't call to me at all, so I don't understand why people want to do it.
I guess it's more of a "I can't relate"?
That’s totally fair! I was straightedge for my early life and also didn’t understand. Something changed for me when I was in my 20s. I decided to try cannabis and realized everything I was told about drugs was wrong. I can’t smoke cannabis anymore, it gives me crazy anxiety. But I do take MDMA every four months or so with my partner, because it’s the best feeling I’ve ever experienced!
The coolest drug I’ve taken was 5-MeO-DiPT, or “Foxy”. It altered everything about the world. It was the only thing I’ve ever tried that changed time. My partner at the time and I were listening to music familiar to us, and both noticed notes stretching out way longer than they usually do. The body feelings were also insane. I would never do it again hahaha
Don't enjoy alcohol like that.
It can have a particular taste I might enjoy every while but I know the risls and try to keep it a low number. And I feel like I can be at risk for addictions. So I was never drunk and never plan to.
Mr. Beast.
Unsubbed from a person that featured him recently.
Can't support his behaviour and anyone that supports his presence in any capacity.
Watching sports. Playing them, I get. Watching? Never cared for it.
Why do we have to have massive stadiums everywhere ?
Pay for your hobby yourself.
Same reason some people are into watching video games, talent shows or even actors.
There's loads of interest to be found in spectating a skilled display of any activity if you truly engage with it IMO.
I sometimes watch sports I've barely got a grasp of the rules for just out of fascination. GAA hurling is the most recent one I can recall getting sucked into for an afternoon.
Twitter or any “microblog”.
I don’t understand why “following” a person/organisation would be interesting. I would rather follow a topic/community.
Most superheroes.
EDIT: SJW admins confirms that I have indeed been downvoted by Superman and Spiderman
Dark Souls games.
Or Final Fantasy games.
Or GTA.
Mobile UI. It sucks. Yet the majority of people online are now connecting from it, and everything wants to be an app.
Most social media stuff.
Omg did you hear X did Y?
I guess I'm just old but I don't follow most. Even with dogpiling PirateSoftware. Yes, he's wrong and probably lied. I just don't get the hype around it. I'm happy that the hype led to Stop Killing Games getting enough traction though, that was nice.
Vtubers. I get the cute anime girl thing and I like fan art of them as I do other anime. But the models move wayyyyyy to exaggerated. It hits uncanny valley for me.
Also I don't get the parasocial relationship of chatting in a huge room of other followers. The chat is scrolling by at a hundred miles an hour and you're competing with everyone else for their attention.
I don't get the uncanny valley from them, but I guess that can vary from person to person, so that's fair.
The thing about chats being filled with too many people for any one person to matter I agree with. But that's a big streamer thing, not exclusively a vtuber thing.
"Reality TV". Could anythjng be more contrived yet obviously "make it up as you go along"?
Interdimensional cable is arguably better.
AI, the only people hyped about it are corporate heads, and people trying to get into the industry via grad school pipeline.
hyping content creator as the goal for younger people to become? these people arnt really good models to follow and you hear them get into some kind of drama and find out they are pos: sniperwolf, mr beast, siderman. also liek to mention most current creators are often rich/come from wealth themselves, so it doesnt help people who arnt as rich as they are.
and then people still defending PEWPEWDIE? why are people still trying to give his previous support of bigotry a pass, just because he had a child now.
The notion that working in the Trades is so great. Coming from a guy did a lot of construction work, trust me it can really suck… also most of the guys in that line of work are assholes.
Working for corpos. It's a dream for most of IT people to get hired in Google or Microsoft. I guess being a worthless cog in a world-destroying machine is the top of the game these days.
As a software architect, I only target small companies. And I can do anything I fucking want, I'm currently rocking a SolidJS+TRPC+Prisma setup and life is a dream.
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