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[–] fmstrat@lemmy.nowsci.com 2 points 5 days ago

Give LOTS of space when passing a bike in your car.

Give EVEN MORE when passing a horse.

[–] Vanth@reddthat.com 132 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (3 children)

Don't make phone calls on speaker when in public. Not even if you hold it up to your ear.

[–] thegr8goldfish@startrek.website 52 points 1 week ago (1 children)

People that do this are inviting you to join the call. Announce yourself and ask what the caller is wearing.

[–] MagicShel@lemmy.zip 21 points 1 week ago (2 children)
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[–] TherapyGary@lemmy.blahaj.zone 28 points 1 week ago

Similarly, watching videos/listening to music on full volume in public without headphones

[–] MajorMajormajormajor@lemmy.ca 28 points 1 week ago

The worst are people who do that in the bathroom. Like, hello, I'm trying to jerk off in peace here, stop polluting the air with your banal conversation.

[–] Venus_Ziegenfalle@feddit.org 101 points 1 week ago (3 children)

If you're boarding a train or bus let people exit first instead of squeezing your fat ass past everyone to get a good seat

[–] MajorMajormajormajor@lemmy.ca 39 points 1 week ago (2 children)

It's the human equivalent of when dogs want you to throw the ball without taking it from their mouth. People need to exit to make room for people to enter.

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[–] Justdaveisfine@midwest.social 90 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (8 children)

Here's a weird one:

Don't offer advice unless its something you have some experience with.

Googling someone's issues and giving them a boilerplate answer from the first thing you find isn't helpful and can actually be a hinderance more than anything.

[–] undefined@lemmy.hogru.ch 20 points 1 week ago (3 children)

I also hate when people get angry you didn’t follow their advice. Sometimes their advice was horse shit to begin with anyway. Just because someone seeks advice doesn’t mean they’re obligated to follow it. At least in my case, thank God I didn’t.

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You've got my vote for president.

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[–] HobbitFoot@thelemmy.club 72 points 1 week ago (3 children)

Don't stop in doorways when walking through public places.

[–] KittenBiscuits@lemm.ee 19 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Or at the top of the stairs/ escalator you just came up. There are people behind you with nowhere to go while you decide which way you want to go.

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[–] agamemnonymous@sh.itjust.works 70 points 1 week ago (2 children)

So many of these are "Don't create obstacles or bottlenecks".

Return your cart, zipper merge, wait for people to get off before you get on, don't block doorways.

Clearly, the truest unspoken rule is "Get out of the way!"

[–] Jolteon@lemmy.zip 20 points 1 week ago (3 children)

If you need to have a conversation with someone, don't block the entire hallway to do it.

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[–] GeekyOnion@lemmy.world 65 points 1 week ago (24 children)

Put your cart back when you're done shopping.

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[–] magnetosphere@fedia.io 60 points 1 week ago (5 children)

When it’s close to closing time, get out of the store. If you have items you want to buy, leave yourself enough time to check out before the store closes. If you’re bringing a full cart to the register 30 seconds before closing time, you’re an asshole.

The employees have probably been there for 7+ hours, and still have to clean, restock, etc. They don’t want to be there for one second longer than necessary. Don’t be the reason they get home even later than usual.

[–] proudblond@lemmy.world 30 points 1 week ago (3 children)

Worked at a Starbucks in college that was open until midnight. One time there were a couple of girls hanging out and didn’t leave when 12 rolled around. We started doing our closing tasks, locked the doors, etc. and they still remained. Finally I was starting to mop the floor and one of them said to me, “Were you going to ask us to leave?” And I said, “We’re not allowed to.” They were so apologetic after that. Yeah whatever, just get the hell out.

[–] 200ok@lemmy.world 23 points 1 week ago (1 children)

You're not allowed to ask people to leave after closing? That's awful, what the hell!

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[–] frog_brawler@lemmy.world 44 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Let the people out of the elevator that are trying to get out of the elevator before you attempt getting in.

[–] xiii@lemmy.world 19 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Elevator, all public transport, buildings. There’s more space outside. Stop cramping.

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[–] Furbag@lemmy.world 40 points 1 week ago

Be aware of your surroundings. This is not just a safety thing for yourself, but a courtesy thing for other people.

[–] ch00f@lemmy.world 38 points 1 week ago (8 children)

Zipper merging.

If your lane is closing ahead, it is better for everyone in traffic if you drive all the way to the end of the lane and cut in at the last moment.

Note that this does not apply to exit lanes. The basic rule is if late merging blocks someone from going somewhere, merge early. Otherwise, merge as late as you can.

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[–] ChocoboEnthusiast@leminal.space 37 points 1 week ago (3 children)

When shopping and it's busy, don't walk down the middle of the aisle or leave your shopping kart there.

[–] spittingimage@lemmy.world 16 points 1 week ago

And don't look at me like I'm the monster when I push your unattended cart out of my way.

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[–] scrubbles@poptalk.scrubbles.tech 34 points 1 week ago (4 children)

You stand on the right side of an escalator/moving walkway. You walk on the left side.

It doesn't matter if you have multiple people or luggage, the right is for standing, the left is for walking.

[–] Mothra@mander.xyz 17 points 1 week ago (4 children)

I would add an asterisk there and say this should reflect the driving/roads convention used in the country. Where I live, the driver's seat is on the right side of a car and on escalators most people stand still on the left, letting the right side clear for walking.

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[–] SaneMartigan@aussie.zone 30 points 1 week ago (4 children)

If you're in a drive on the left or right side of the road country, that goes for bike and walking paths too. Eg in Australia, keep left on footpaths.

[–] helmet91@lemmy.world 15 points 1 week ago (5 children)

Actually, in Hungary (at least when I was a kid) they thought us, pedestrians, to use the left side, although this was more important when there was no sidewalk. The reason is, drivers might not see pedestrians very well, especially at night, but pedestrians do have a higher chance to see cars, as cars are usually illuminated. The pedestrian is facing forward, so it's easy to see and react when a car is coming. But from behind? They'll pass on the right side of the road, so there should be plenty of clearance.

And I was legit surprised when I moved to Germany, pedestrians here are using the right side.

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[–] SergeantScar@lemmy.world 29 points 1 week ago (7 children)

When driving, you should engage your turn signal before you start applying the brakes in preparation for your turn.

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[–] eezeebee@lemmy.ca 29 points 1 week ago

People exiting a building or vehicle get priority over people entering. Let people out before you go cram yourself in the way.

[–] Witchfire@lemmy.world 28 points 1 week ago (5 children)
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[–] Libra@lemmy.ml 27 points 1 week ago (3 children)

There's really only two of them:

  1. Don't be stupid.
  2. Don't be a dick.

They're not even unspoken, people say them all the time, but some people just don't pay attention I guess.

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[–] captain_aggravated@sh.itjust.works 27 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Do NOT stop to talk in doorways.

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[–] NENathaniel@lemmy.ca 27 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (9 children)

When waiting at a red light, cars are supposed to stay out of the pedestrian crosswalk

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[–] Olcoot@lemmy.world 25 points 1 week ago

Push your chair in after leaving a table at a cafeteria. It blocks the path for people who are carrying trays and may not have a free hand to push it in themselves.

[–] RampantParanoia2365@lemmy.world 21 points 1 week ago (3 children)

Elevator Etiquette: Let people exit before you enter. That way you have more room to enter. This applies to all things, not just elevators.

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[–] TheKracken@lemmy.world 18 points 1 week ago (2 children)
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[–] SelfHigh5@lemmy.world 17 points 1 week ago (2 children)

If you need to stop while walking on a path, inside or outside, step to the side. I can’t believe how many people just abruptly stop to look at their phone, have a conversation, point out something they find interesting… like my guy, would you do that in a car? Fucking GOOOOOO!!

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[–] jcs@lemmy.world 17 points 1 week ago

When exiting an airplane, it is more efficient to remain in your row until the row ahead of you has accessed their belongings. This includes people that have no overhead luggage. Sometimes someone's overhead luggage is behind their seat and it causes noticeable congestion/delays if there are people standing in the aisle obstructing their path. An exception could be made for patrons that need extra time for mobility issues, but this is usually arranged in advance with the flight attendants. Having said that, it's best to make every effort to exit with expediency because there could be others that have very little time to reach their connecting flight.

It's safe to generally assume that most others are equally (or more) tired of being on the plane and want to leave ASAP.

[–] venusaur@lemmy.world 16 points 1 week ago (16 children)

If your seat reclines in an airplane, you have every right to recline it except during takeoff and landing. This one is controversial.

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[–] PresidentCamacho@lemm.ee 15 points 1 week ago

Since the majority of people in the world are idiots, and management tends to collect them at a higher rate than other roles, you will generally be rewarded more for how you make others feel than the amount or quality of your work. A person with a 10 in charisma and 4 int gets farther than the person with a 10 int and a 7 in charisma most of the time. Focus on learning better people skills. If you find a place where your work is recognized you should cherish it.

Also in the US the left lane is for passing the right lanes.

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